Once upon a time in the fairy tale kingdom of Brooklyn, New York, there
lived a little girl who believed in “happily ever after.” She had read
countless stories, seen a gazillion movies, made annual trips to the
dreams-come-true-mothership Walt Disney World in Orlando and knew that her
vision of being in an extraordinary, wondrous love relationship was so utterly
real, true, and sure for her that no one could tell her differently.
As the little girl grew and her attention moved from focusing inwardly to
observing the outer world, she started to notice that virtually no 3-D humans
were living happily ever after with each other, and soon her own experiences
began to match what she was observing.
With this, doubt became far more prevalent than knowing, and her dream began
to wane. After all, if almost everyone she knew had difficult or
less-than-stellar relationships—including everyone in her immediate and
extended family—and her own personal experience was showing her that
relationships were always lacking.
How could she possibly believe otherwise?
After taking a break from many years of relationship ups and downs, the girl
decided that she would once again allow herself to dream, envision, and
consider what could be. She made lists of what she wanted, cut out words
and images to place in books and on vision boards, and spent whatever idle time
she had thinking about the possibility of what could be. She was determined and
willing to do whatever it would take to realize her dream and was working very
diligently at the process—for the world most certainly taught her that any
worthwhile dream could come true if she was willing to put in the time and work
hard. But, oddly enough, the more “required” action she invested, the less
effective her results turned out to be. With this, she decided that instead of
waiting for Mr. Right to whisk her away on adventures, she could give these as
gifts to herself. She stopped waiting, really started living and had some of
the greatest adventures of her life; and lo and behold, she discovered that for
first time in her adult life, she truly enjoyed the pleasure of her OWN
As she gradually entered the dating world again, she found more and more
awesome traits and experiences with her lovers. Though none of them
turned out to be “the one,” she came away from each of these relationships with
greater insights about what she really desired and, most importantly,
went beyond the work of making lists or adding to vision boards to finally
reach the heart of how she wanted her relationship to FEEL.
Throughout this time of exploration, she shared many conversations with her
best friend, a fellow musician and deeply intelligent and spiritually
open-minded man. To help each other along their respective journeys, they
exchanged music, books, audio recordings, and movies that moved each of them.
The most amazing thing occurred when the girl heard her heterosexual male
friend speak the words her heart had once shouted as a child, “I want the fairy
tale. I want happily ever after.”
Perhaps her dream was not as crazy or impossible as she had made it out to
be? Perhaps she was not the only one who wanted this?
Once again, she went forth to sample the buffet of relationships and
unfortunately managed to sink her teeth into a particularly bitter dish, which
got her attention in a strong enough way to inspire her to make a very powerful
decision: She decided she was done searching, would never again settle for less
than the whole badda-bing of what she truly wanted, and that if she was not able
to experience this in her lifetime for whatever reason, she really could be
okay and live a happy, full life as a single woman. She then got off the
subject of love and relationships altogether and resolved to do her best to get
back to living her own version of happily-ever-now.
A month or so later when her heart became lighter, she accepted an
invitation to meet her best friend to check out an up-and-coming blues band. On
her way, she was inspired to stop at a book store for no good reason, where she
struck up a conversation with a lovely woman. After feeling compelled to
share her relationship stories with the stranger, the woman gave her a very
helpful piece of advice and planted a seed of hope by saying,
“Whatever you do, do not close your heart, for the one you’ve
been waiting for may be just around the corner.”
Upon hearing this, she realized that there was still something inside of her
that knew that what she wanted could be possible, some way, somehow, someday;
but this time, she had no stake in it. There was no urgency, no
must-have, and no desire to chase, try, search, or pursue. She thanked the lady
and took these sweet words with a grain of salt.
When she met her friend that evening, there was a whole new sense of
electricity in the air. Though she had felt this when she first met him two
years prior, the timing and circumstances were not conducive to anything more
than friendship at that time (since she had just ended one
relationship and started a new one). Those feelings had long been swept under
the rug and tucked away, but today the rug had been lifted, and boy, the sparks
were flying! By the end of the night, she and her best friend, John, shared a
truly magical first kiss that was unlike anything she had ever experienced
before. It felt like all time had stopped, like the entire Universe had
converged upon this moment, yet at the same time, it was the most natural,
easy, beautiful thing in the world. In less than 24 hours, this already
wonderful friendship had evolved into something deeper and more and, with this
recognition, the words she had heard from the kind stranger only hours before
rang truer than she ever could have imagined!
Approximately 30 days after giving up the search and a month and a
half after kissing her best friend, the girl—AKA yours truly—said “Absolutely!”
to his question of “Will you marry me?”
We have since shared over 17 years of friendship, 13 years of marriage, and
an ever-expanding, amazing, fun, natural, passionate, joy-filled, awesome
adventure beyond anything I once thought possible. And when I recall the words
he spoke to me all those years ago, “I want the fairy tale. I want happily ever
after,” I am again reminded that the Universe has the power and resources to deliver
even our deepest, truest, hearts’ desires—even down to the most exact, specific
The Bottom Line: From Impossible-Ever-Now to Happily Ever After!
When I began my journey of allowing true love, there really was a time where
it felt utterly, completely ridiculous and impossible. Like most of you, I was
taught to be realistic and do my homework by researching and observing the
world around me, yet the more I did this, the further this took me away
from realizing my dreams. I also discovered that trying too hard to “make it
happen” was not the answer because the more I searched for what I did not have,
the more life (via Law of Attraction) brought me more of the same via more
searching and more not having. Yet, with a willingness to let go, along with
being open to allowing a little seed of hope and possibility to germinate, it
was astonishing how quickly everything fell into place:
In less than 24 hours I had moved from impossible-ever-now to starting the
journey of happily-ever-now AND after!
If I could find that wonderful woman who gave me those words of hope at the
perfect time, I would give her the most epic hug imaginable! So just as she
said to me all those years ago, it is MY hope that you take this story and
these words to heart:
“Whatever you do, do not close your heart, for the one you have
been waiting for may be just around the corner!”
Here’s to open hearts, happily-ever-nows (and afters!), and to remembering
that dreams really can also come true for beautiful, fabulous YOU!
Tell us about your happily ever after story.